Showing posts with label Pole. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Pole. Show all posts

25 Things #3 - Take a pole dance class

Monday, 28 September 2015


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Today is the first post in my series of 25 Things Before 25. If you haven't read my list of challenges you can do so here, but this post focuses specifically on number 3 - take a pole dance class.

When people hear the term ‘pole dance’ a lot of people will instantly think of shady strip clubs. But pole dancing is a style of dance that has grown in popularity in recent years and has become more about the fitness, gymnastics and skill involved.

This first time I can remember talking about pole dance was back at college, and my friend suggested we look into going to a class. It was a bit of a joke at the time and we never took it any further than just a quick conversation about it. It wasn’t until I went to uni and got chatting to my friend Hollie that I actually began to realise what was involved, the popularity of pole dancing and how different it the image I had in my head.

Hollie and I met through university and both share a love of dancing. Whilst I’ve tended to stick to the more theatrical styles (ballet/jazz/disco etc) she’s much more adventurous at trying out new styles and joined our university’s pole society. Seeing all her pictures on facebook, hearing her stories and seeing how much fun she has had with pole dancing has made me want to try it for a while.

The only think that stopped me was my self-confidence issues and my fear of failure. Which is silly really when you think about it, and you read the guest post Hollie wrote for me (if you haven’t already, you can read it here) about how pole has helped her gain her confidence.

This year, I decided, is the year I get over my fear of failing, my lack of confidence and I give pole a go!

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My intention was just to sign up to a beginner’s taster session one of my dance schools runs every few months and give pole a go that way, just to see if I enjoyed it. But in the run up to the start of their next 6 week term of classes the owner opened up a competition to win a place on the next course. I decided to enter on the off chance; I wasn’t really expecting to win. But I did! And I was really excited to get started.

As the start of the course drew nearer, I started to get a bit nervous. Although I know what pole dancing is about, I wasn’t sure what to expect in the class, what to wear, whether I’d be any good at it, or whether I’d enjoy it. I shouldn’t have worried at all.

When I turned up on the night, there were eight other ladies waiting with me to get started. Only 3 of the had taken a pole class before, the rest were all like me; complete beginners, nervous and terrified of what to expect. We sat in the near silence in the changing room before the start of the class, the room filled with tension.

Ellouise, our teacher, was brilliant when she walked into the room. She gave us a little pep talk, told us what was going to happen over the six week course, to relax and not to worry. We were there to have fun after all!

The class started with a little cardio dance warm up which was really simple and fun to do, then we got to meet our new friends for the first time. The poles.

Our starting move was a hold. I’m sure it had a proper name, and I wish I could remember it, but there was so much to remember it’s slipped my mind. Sorry! Anyway, the hold, we leant our chests against the pole, wrapped our hands around the poles and then lifted our legs up. Our thighs and our hands were holding all of our body weight up in the air.

Lifting your feet off the floor on that first attempt is a very scary moment. I was so nervous that I was going to fall that I was gripping on so tight, but I managed to hold myself up there for a little while.

We then progressed from the starting hold into a hold with a slide down to the floor on the end, a spin move down to the floor and then the moves combined with some walking steps. It was at this point that I was beginning to think the pole and I weren’t going to be friends. That pole wasn’t going to be a new dance style for me.

I was so nervous and worried that I was going to fall and hurt myself, that I couldn’t bring myself to loosen my grip and do the slides/spins properly. I struggled a lot. But Ellouise and the rest of the girls were brilliant at encouraging you to keep trying things, and to relax. I kept trying and saw a little improvement, but my grip hold wasn’t going away.

The final move of the night was, I think, called the Carousel (but I could be wrong) and it was by far my favourite move of the night. It involved stepping around the pole, then pivoting on one foot round the pole and going into a back bend.

I loved this move so much. I achieved it without many corrections on the first attempt, and I kept managing to get it right. It really boosted my confidence. Maybe the pole and I could develop a friendship after all?

After a little stretch and a cool down, I left the class on a high and now I’m really looking forward to going back next week to see what Ellouise has in store for us. I know I need to work on loosing my grip, and hopefully I can do that next week.

Overall, I’m pleased I decided to give pole a go, it was definitely a new experience and something I shouldn’t have been worried about trying for all these years. Lets see how the next few weeks go.

Sarah x 

Guest Post: Hollie - Pole dancing and burlesque, a journey in confidence and body image

Wednesday, 24 June 2015

Hey everyone! Today I have a very special guest post from a friend of mine, Hollie. She's here today to share her story on how pole dancing and burlesque helped her with her confidence and body image. Hope you all enjoy!

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Think Hermione from Harry Potter or Sandy at the start of Grease and you get the idea of what I was like before pole and burlesque entered my life. I was (and still am to an extent) a nerdy introvert, but now I'm happy enough to strut my stuff on stage and am a lot more outgoing. So how did the transformation start??

I started pole dancing just before entering my final year as an undergraduate at Northumbria University in 2011. This was as a result of agreeing with friends that we wanted to try some form of dance and pole seemed like fun. We all signed up and went along to our first class. I was hooked straight away and have regularly attended lessons ever since, going to different studios as and when I have moved to study. These days I'm a qualified instructor regularly teaching in Nottingham.

What influenced me to start burlesque was my love of the film 'Burlesque' and the performer Dita Von Teese. The film and performer made me interested in the art form so I ended up going to see a show in Newcastle when I was studying for my undergraduate degree. I also went along to a workshop which was interesting, but I was never brave enough to regularly go to classes until last year. I moved to Nottingham in 2013 to study for a PhD and thanks to new friends I ended up doing a pole performance as part of a burlesque showcase for 'The Scarlet Ribbon School Of Burlesque' in 2014. That was the push I needed to start regularly attending burlesque lessons; all thanks to meeting the lovely ladies at the showcase and them making me realise that yes I can do this!

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Pole and burlesque are lots of fun and strangely addictive. Pole because of the adrenaline factor in learning new moves and burlesque because you can be whoever you want to be and the act of taking items of clothing off onstage is very daring even if it is only gloves that you remove.

Both pole and burlesque have a real sense of community and it is like joining a family rather than just making friends, which is one of the major benefits you gain a support network of strong ladies (and men). Another benefit is fitness, they are a real workout, in pole you are often holding your own weight and in burlesque running through routines really builds stamina. I have dropped 3 dress sizes in 4 years of pole dancing and gained a whole load of muscle as well as flexibility which helps with the dancing in Burlesque.

Pole has helped my confidence as well as body image by making me appreciate what my body is capable of. When I first started pole I was learning new things every week, it still amazes me that one week I can do something I couldn't last week! Gaining that strength and control is so empowering.
Burlesque makes you focus on how you move your body and what looks flattering. You get to see yourself in the best light possible which makes you feel sexy and really feminine which for me was a real confidence boost as well.

Another way that both pole and burlesque helped with my body image was realizing that we come in all shapes and sizes, and guess what...they all deserve to be celebrated!! In burlesque this is particularly highlighted as it really celebrates the female form. Everyone has something they don't like about themselves but what is more important is that everyone has something they do like. I think that unless you do a form of dance you can miss out on developing a real appreciation of what real women look like. The image in society a lot is based on magazines; this is something that is really difficult to explain.

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Both pole and burlesque have helped improve my confidence so much because they encouraged me to be more outgoing and stop being as shy as I was. Performing added a whole other level of confidence. Having the courage to get up on stage and overcome those nerves made me realize I can do more than I thought possible. It has been so long since I did my first pole performance now I can't remember exactly what that was like, but I do know that I am still petrified every time before the music starts. Competing was again different as it brings another level of pressure with being judged and marked on what you do.

The first pole competition I did was in March 2014 and I was entered in the advanced category (no pressure there then!) this made me focus and actually improved my confidence as it made me realise how far I had come and what I was capable of. My first burlesque performance was in December 2014; again the nerves were really bad but the adrenaline and sudden confidence as I became someone else for those few minutes was the most amazing thing.

Since becoming a pole dance instructor in October last year my confidence has soared. One of my biggest fears as an introvert is standing up in front of a crowd and talking so leading a class for the first time was petrifying but I did it and now I'm totally in control (I'd like to think) and confident up there these days.

So that is my story and ongoing journey to improved self-confidence and body image :)

Many thanks to all the pole and aerial studios I have trained in based in Newcastle, Durham and Nottingham (there are far too many to mention)

A massive thank you to 'The Scarlet Ribbon School Of Burlesque'

xxxxxx